There’s beauty in asking for help
I wanted to share a story from this past weekend being back in Kenya for the past time in over six years, as a part of my own healing and self-care journey I have been learning to ask for help more. I used to feel I had to do it all alone, and didn’t need help of any kind. In fact I sometimes thought that asking for help was a sign of weakness and I hated to be seen as vulnerable in any way. I also realise I was just not good at asking for help, never wanting to ‘imposition’ anyone else.
Anyhow, I was asked to go through some of my old childhood things, to sort out what I wanted to keep and what I was ready to let go of, which in itself can be quite an emotional thing to do. But I’ve been away from home for so long now I was kind of looking forward to finding some old treasures and memories.
It didn’t quite go to plan… All of my stuff had temporarily been stored in cardboard boxes in the attic, which unfortunately had been got to by rats!! So it was all gross and in a mess. It made me really sad and I got super emotional finding all my old childhood stuff like this. Normally I would have kept the pain and hurt inside and just angrily thrown everything away, pretending like I wasn’t bothered, and I almost did do that.
But instead, I reached out to my stepmother (for the first time ever) and shared my sadness and hurt. She was amazing, so apologetic and kind, and helped me go through everything (instead of doing what she needed to do before leaving to go abroad), helping me to clean it all and even sewing up my first ever teddy bear which had been chewed.
I never would have expected that and it meant so much to me, asking for help at home, which is something I never would have done previously. It was so touching and left me feeling more connected, supported and so much better than if I had done what I normally would have. It totally changed the way that whole experience went.
Is there an area of your life where you are trying to do it all alone, but it’s proving hard or taking a lot from you? Is there somewhere you can ask for help or even a little bit of support? I encourage you to reach out and ask…
As an empath self-care is so important as it helps with energy levels, not feeling so drained, respecting boundaries, learning to do what’s best for your body, mind and soul – and so much more!
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